Elysha's World

Elysha's World

Saturday, December 20, 2014

Little Women

I love classic movies! I believe that chivalry is not dead. I believe that there are good people in the world. I believe that there is someone for everyone. I don’t know what it is about the last few weeks, but I’ve been rekindling my love to classic 80’s - 90’s movies. I love the old fashion with the big dresses. I have to wear a skirt or dress to work every day, and maybe that is where all of this is coming from. 

I don’t know what it is about these movies, but they move me. They make me want to be a better person. They make me want to follow my dreams. They make me want to write! They also make me want to fall in love a little bit. They’re classic, and that’s why everyone loves them. They’re a little heartbreaking as well, and they’re pretty true to real life for better or for worse. 
As I’ve been thinking about my future, I’ve started to try to think more clearly of what exactly it is that I want. It’s a lot harder than it sounds. I love and relate very well to the movie “Little Women.” I have five sisters, instead of four sisters like the book, but I know how they feel. A lot of the movie is just the mother raising her daughters. They get by and live well enough, but sometimes get to experience the life of their rich friends. They have an amazing neighbor boy that they spend their time with, and they’re all always acting things out and going on adventures. My older sister is similar to Meg. She lived her life, got her education, found a man, got married and had a child. It seems simple enough and easy to do right? Wrong.  (Okay so this video is SUPER cheesy, but it's the music not the acting that I love. It's about Meg.)

I relate more with the second child, Jo. I crave adventure, but it’s hard to leave home and go far away. I think I know what I want, and then I change my mind. I love to stay up late and let my imagination run wild with me. I love to write and would love to be published one day. I think Jo in Little Women says it best, “I want to do something splendid...something heroic or wonderful that won't be forgotten after I'm dead. I don't know what, but I'm on the watch for it and mean to astonish you all someday.” (Once again a super dramatic scene, but it's Sutton Foster!)

Jo finds some dear friends, many friends, and yet surprisingly ends up with the professor in the end. He isn’t some wealthy well-to-do man, but they appreciate the same things and love each other. Isn’t that what we’re all searching for?

I don’t think any of my sisters are really like Beth or Amy in the book. I think we really are all a little of all of the Little Women combined. I LOVED, loved, LoVeD the musical/play version of Little Women. I could relate to every song. I could think of a memory to go with almost all of them from my own life. I had friends who were grown men and cried when we went to see it last year. I shared a few of them in this post Musical Dating Tips about the steps of dating explained through musicals. 
I don’t know if I have a favorite song from this play. I really enjoy the two songs that the mother sings in this play. Part of that is because her songs are in my singing range, and are very heartfelt songs. I think the other reason is because the woman in this play reminds me of my own mother. So caring, so stressed, and so worried that she might not be able to raise her daughters properly by herself. After Beth dies in the play, the mother is strong, and refuses to feel tragic or that God is against her. She stands up and is a beacon of hope for her daughters and expects them to move on with their lives instead of living in the past.

There’s a song in this musical called “Take a Chance on Me.” I’ve always enjoyed it and can relate to it a little too well. A few months ago I was talking to a man I’d just met earlier that day, and after a pretty serious conversation he said, “So what do you think? Will you take a chance on me?” I’m sure he had no idea about this song, but I couldn’t help but smile, and laughed about it for a long time after. Now I can’t listen to this song without thinking about that conversation.

When I was in high school there were a lot of deaths in my small town. I’ve been to more funerals than I ever hoped to go to, especially for people around my age. One of my friends lost her sister to a car accident. I was at school in her class right after she got the news. I didn’t know her sister very well, because she was older than I was, but I knew my friend. I was supposed to take a test that day in my Drama class, but I was so shaken up that I couldn’t compose myself enough to take the test. One of my friends asked my teacher if he could take me into the back room and just sit with me there. I didn’t really have a lot to say, but he was kind enough to sit with me. As soon as the class was over I ran into the hall way and found my friends. We just stood in the hall way hugging each other and crying. That was a really hard funeral to attend. My friends sister was just a few weeks away from her wedding when the accident happened. I think I like the song because it shows a strong bond between sisters. In this video my cousin plays the part of Jo. 

The song, “How Am I?” just encompasses so beautifully how I think we all feel when we find someone we enjoy spending time with. You get excited, nervous, tongue tied, creative, stupid, and a range of so many other emotions. In this video he’s trying to write a letter, but now a day it can take me up to ten minutes to write a perfectly worded text or Facebook message. We’ve all been there.

I think it’s a smooth transition into the song “Small Umbrella.” It’s kind of a back and forth song where they both want to be right, and finally start to learn to work together. I also love the end scene in the movie. It just brings everything together and I can't help but smile every time I see the play or the movie. 

I guess things change and we have to grow up. I love my family of little women, well, maybe not so little anymore and not just women!

Monday, December 8, 2014

Friends of Convenience

I’ve got a million different thoughts running through my mind right now. There are a lot of different things I should be doing with my time. There is a lot of change happening in my life, and a lot of things I don’t want to take the time to think about let alone write down for the few people who read this blog post. 

I find it intriguing the number of times in the past few months that I’ve had to sit down and tell my friends the truth about themselves. That is a really weird sentence, so I’ll explain myself. I’ve had numerous friends that I love dearly come to me in the last few months searching for answers about what kind of a person they are. I’m honored that they felt safe enough to come to me, but then at the same time I don’t want to tell them because I don’t want to hurt their feelings. At least three of them talked about how recently their friends don’t want to hang out with them anymore. I am unfortunately usually one of those friends. 

I slowly start getting busier, and I see that particular friend less and less. I find other ways to fill my time. I find it’s easier to slowly step away from someone rather than sitting them down and telling them why I don’t want to hang out with them anymore.  I guess they eventually notice that we’re not talking very much anymore and they come over to talk. After about an hour of them talking and trying to figure out their feelings, I tell them that the reason we haven’t been hanging out is because they are a friend of convenience (or whatever it is that’s my reason) I’m always very real with them and don’t usually tell them unless they ask. It sounds harsh, but coming from someone who loves them, it usually makes a difference. I don't always love when people tell me things about myself that I don't see or understand, but when it's done with patience and love it makes a big difference.

What is a friend of convenience? Surprisingly we all have them, and at times we are that friend. They’re the friends that stop by to see you, and then end up telling you all about their life and their problems. You sit and listen and give them advice, and as soon as they feel better, they tell you they have to go, and they leave on to their next activity. They leave you sitting there a little confused with a lot of information to process, and you kind of wish they’d ask you how you’re doing. 

I have friends that do this every once in a while. Sometimes people just need to vent or talk through something. But with other friends this is my relationship with them, and that’s not really a relationship, it’s more like a psychiatrist and client relationship.  I hope I never make people feel that way. I’m glad to lend an ear to listen, and I love these people so I’m happy to help, but most of them are totally oblivious that they’re doing it, and surprisingly most of them are guys.

After they discover this they ask, “What can I do? How can I fix this?” I love people who are willing to grow and change! I often tell them that it won’t happen all at once, it’s a process just like everything else in their life. It starts with going over to their friend’s house and asking how their friend is doing. It’s not all about their friend, they can feel free to talk about their life as well, but it helps to even out the conversation and this way both people leave the conversation feeling a little bit better. 

On a different and totally random note I listened to two songs today that had to do with raining. I just feel like people are constantly going through trials in their lives and want/need to talk about them with other people. That’s great! We’re all on this Earth to help each other. Sometimes talking about it doesn’t change anything, and sometimes praying for these things to go away doesn’t do any good either. I love this talk by D. Todd Christofferson that helps us figure out how to slow things down and not look so far in the future. Give Us This Day Our Daily Bread. Sometimes we just need to take each day one day at a time, and learn to enjoy puddle jumping! 

I only added this picture because it makes me smile. We've got to learn to laugh at ourselves. Sometimes that's all we can do

Saturday, December 6, 2014

Confessions of a Shopaholic: Rue 21!

This necklace $3 at Rue 21

Today was a really great day. My roommate and I went and ate some delicious Thai food for lunch and then we went to the mall. While there we stopped at Rue 21. I really love Rue 21! I found out about Rue 21 when I was about 15. I’m from a small town, and so I only knew about stores like Kmart, Payless, and Old Navy. Those are great stores, but I’ve had a slight obsession with Rue 21 for the last few years. 

I got this shirt and belt for $1 at Rue 21
I got the shirt for $3, the necklace for $2 at Rue 21
I love the layout of the Rue 21 stores, the music they play, and the people who work there. I love their prices, their fabrics, their sizes, and their shoes. I guess you could say the store and I have gotten pretty serious. 

It’s hard not to walk out of that store with a big bag of clothing. I don’t know if I’ve ever bought anything there at full price. They usually have great sales and I always find something I like!

This shirt was $3 and the skirt was $7 at Rue 21
 I’ve thought about owning a Rue 21 franchise many times because I know they have quality items that sell and last. I’ve bought clothes there for family many times, and they always love anything I get them from there. I have at least 6 skirts from there and 3 dresses. 

Also they have some great perfumes and fragrences there. I've never bought any, but my roommate uses it and loves it! I am planning on getting some soon, but I should probably use all my other body sprays first. I usually go to Victoria's Secret for those, but Rue 21 has some great new smells. 

I left the mall with 7 new shirts, a dress/long shirt, and two skirts for less than $40. Everything in the photo below I got for $2 each. 

$2 each
 I also got this SUPER cute shirt today. It's probably one of the most expensive things I've bought at that store. I just couldn't pass it up! It's a little Asian and I like it!
While looking at everything I bought today I was realizing that probably half of my closet is full of clothes from Rue 21. Half of them still have tags on them because I usually buy clothes on the off season of when they're on sale. I buy my winter clothes in the summer, and I buy my spring clothes in the fall. There are always sales, Sales, SALES!  Here are a few pictures of clothes from my closet. (This isn't even all of them I'm sure.)
Scarves! $1 each at Rue 21 :)

$2 for the shirts. $5 for the shoes.
$5 each
 At Rue 21 they have way cute jewelry! I used to not be a big jewelery person because my arms and neck are so small. I always feel like things just drape off of me. At least that's how I felt until I found this store. I love their bracelets!!! They fit on my arms and don't fall off. I get complements on my jewelry all of the time, and I tell everyone that I pay no more than about $3 for each item. The bracelets usually come in a bundle so it's $3 for 3 items. It's glitzy and looks cute. It doesn't look fake or like it's for little girls. (This isn't even close to all of my jewelry from RUE 21.)

$2-$3 each

I bought two coats at Rue 21 this year. I bought them in February or March when they were cleaning out their coats. The blue and black on on the left was originally $40. I got it for $8 at the end of the season and it was just my size! I went back the next day and got the Yellow and Grey coat. The buttons on that one were falling off so I bought this $60 coat and just tightened the buttons on it. it was also a whopping $8.
$8 each
Rue 21 has some adorable skirts! I only recently have noticed them. If you get them on sale then they're usually around $10 each. I paid that for two of the skirts in this photo. I wear some of these skirts like twice a week.the patterned ones are a little thin/ see through so I do have to wear a slip with them.
I really like their sweaters, they're great for fall weather. These particular red and pink sweaters area a little thin and do shed a little bit, but they were too cute to pass up! Once you wash them they're not really problem, and I've never had any of the clothes from Rue 21 bleed when I wash them. The shirts in the below photo were $2 each.
Sweaters $5 each

$3 dress from Rue 21
$5 dress
Jeans! I was skeptical at first, but I was really surprised by how comfortable and durable they are. I wear mine all the time and haven't had any problems with them. They also haven't had any problems with them when I wash them.
$7 each
 I bought these cute sweatshirts for my family for Easter/Graduation this year. They were $2 each and I got five of them. We like our super hero's! Marvel! 
The black and white sweater as well as this purple sweater are probably my two favorite purchases I've ever made from this store. I wore them ALL the time in the winter. They were warm and long. I finally wore them out after about 3 years and a mission to Taiwan. I've never found anything quite like them. I bought them about 4 years ago. I wish I would have bought a lot more of them!
$5 shirt

$5 shirt

So here are a few of my confessions as a shopaholic. :)

My receipt from today!
I got my dress in this photo at Rue 21 for $3